I Didn't Think I Needed To Say It, But...
Apparently this must be said.
I roleplay sexual antics and shenanigans. I write erotically charged fiction.
It's just writing. I am not your girlfriend. I don't write this and reply to you to get aroused in real life.
What I Look for in Roleplay
What usually makes me want to roleplay with someone isn't simply a premise I like, it's the feeling that the premise gives both of us something to create.
For longer-form freeform roleplay, I’m happiest when we’re genuinely writing partners with equal creative input. The great pleasure of this kind of RP, for me, is creating something together that neither of us would have created alone. Two people bring different instincts, different influences, different ideas about characters and worlds, and somewhere in the process those things start combining into a setting and story that belongs to both of us. That's my jam.
I love leaving unfinished ideas, unexplained references, random names, places, organizations, rumors, history, NPCs, and little pieces of characterization for the other writer to pick up and develop. I love when someone catches a seed I dropped almost casually and turns it into something important, and I want to be able to do the same with their ideas. Over time, those improvisations become canon. Characters acquire histories we didn't plan. NPCs become important. Throwaway locations become recurring places. Plot threads emerge because something one of us wrote inspired the other. The best games I've had weren't stories where one person already knew where everything was going, they were the ones where we were building toward something neither of us fully knew yet, and both of us got to be surprised by what it became.
That means an idea usually needs to give my imagination enough to grab onto before I'll become excited about it. Specificity matters. I don't necessarily need pages of lore, but I need enough of a concept that I can begin imagining a setting, possible conflicts, a plot, and, most importantly, specific characters who could exist inside it. Characters are usually where my investment begins.
I want room to create motivated, deeply flawed people who want things, fear things, make mistakes, have histories, and already have connections to the world around them. I especially enjoy characters who have meaningful relationships with NPCs, factions, families, communities, enemies, employers, rivals, former lovers, mentors, dependents, or whatever else makes sense for the setting. Ideally, the setting isn't just scenery behind the characters; it's something they're entangled with.
The player characters can already have strong connections to each other, but they don't have to. Two strangers meeting for the first time can work wonderfully if they each have strong motivations and goals that naturally put them in one another's path. What matters to me is that there's a reason these particular characters are here, doing these particular things, rather than simply being interchangeable participants in a scenario.
And despite where I may be playing, it doesn't actually have to be especially ecchi or lewd. I know that probably loses some people. Sexuality, romance, kink, eroticism, and similar material can absolutely be part of a story, and I almost always consider my characters' sexuality and sexual desires when writing them, but they're not what makes the RP interesting to me by themselves. What keeps me engaged is the creative exchange: giving each other material, escalating ideas, surprising one another, and challenging each other to write something better than either of us would have written alone.
All that being said, not everything I play needs to be an elaborate collaborative worldbuilding project. I can absolutely enjoy short scenes, one-offs, quick-hit scenarios, or situations that exist mostly because we both want to write a particular moment. Those require much less investment from either partner. We don't necessarily need extensive backstories, supporting casts, lore, or a world we intend to keep exploring afterward.
Those games depend much more heavily on immediate inspiration, though. My muse is fickle. If a short scenario hits exactly the right button at exactly the right moment, I can have a great time with it. If that spark isn't there, something built primarily around the immediate scene can fizzle quickly because there isn't a larger world, character arc, or creative mystery pulling me forward.
None of this is meant as a complicated set of requirements someone has to satisfy before approaching me. It's really just an explanation of what tends to inspire me. Give me an idea specific enough that I can start seeing the world and imagining people who belong in it. Give me room to create a character with motivations, flaws, relationships, and something meaningful at stake. Bring your own ideas and let me bring mine. Leave spaces for me to fill in, and be willing to grab the things I leave for you.
If I start wondering who my character is, who they know, what they want, what happened before the story began, and what might happen when our characters collide, there's a very good chance you've got me interested.
Why I Suck As a RP Partner
I'm not the most reliable partner. I disappear for extended periods, often without warning. Please note that if I don't enjoy a roleplay, I will say something. My tendency to "ghost" is a mental health thing with me rather than anything to do with you or our roleplay. Again, if I don't want to write a particular roleplay or with a particular person, I will simply state this in the nicest way possible. We can't all be compatible, and forcing something never works. So if I tell you I don't think we work together, or I don't think I want to continue this roleplay, that's the truth. If I'm slow to respond or just seem to be ignoring our roleplay, it's 100% my stupid brain.
I get stuck trying to write the perfect sentence to convey a very specific meaning in a goofy smut roleplay that neither of us will probably remember next year. I'm hung up on my writing being "really good" which sometimes makes my writing "non-existent" as I freeze up trying to craft something perfect.
I LOVE the idea phase, creating something new with a partner, the back and forth when we build something up from nothing, adding to each others ideas in ways neither may have originally planned, creating something together that is better than either of us could have done alone. But sometimes I suck at actually following through and completing the roleplay. My brain wants something new, so once we plan, plot, and lay something out, my mind wants to move on to something else. It doesn't always stop me from writing the roleplay, but sometimes it does.
YOU'VE BEEN WARNED.
Why I Might Make an Acceptable RP Partner
I am creative. I'm an idea machine. I should sell these things. Seriously, I've probably forgotten more great ideas than your average author will ever publish. It's almost an affliction. I should probably be medicated.
I'm a decent writer. I write a lot, and work hard to improve my skills and make my writing stand out. I have spent decades honing my skills, and I like to think I've been elevated beyond talented amateur, even if that's all I am. People seem to enjoy my writing. I will work with you to make sure a story idea is perfect before we start, or I will jump right in with both feet and test the waters as we go if we feel compatible right out of the gate.
I'm nice. Even if we disagree, I don't see any reason to be mean. Heck, even if I flat out don't like you I'll often express it politely. There's no sense in hurting anyone else if it can be avoided.
