Spanking for fun or because of need?

[lanolyt]

Addressed mostly to the ladies.

Would you prefer a character to find she enjoys being spanked, or prefer it be real punishment?

[MissCrow]

I think for fun is a good perspective.

It's always fantasized about as a punishment, but I think there's more to explore it as a "Fun-ishment." I personally find it more erotic because punishment is something to correct behavior (so, it needs to be something the submissive doesnt like, and I don't find that hot). I'm not a fan of true punishments. When there is pain or fear, I like to feel cherished even if there is no love.

Spanking as a punishment is also an oversaturated concept, and while it is an enjoyable read if it is executed well, I wish there was more exposure to the many ways kinks are executed differently depending on the person and what they desire from the experience.

In conclusion, I think there's a lot one can explore from a submissive who likes spanking for fun. What circumstances lead up to this fun spanking? What does the dominant say to keep it fun? How is the pacing of the spanking handled? What is the submissives definition of fun? All of this is shaped by WHY the submissive finds it fun. Is it for...Thrill? Security? Desire? Yearning? Bravery? Love? Etc. 

Edited December 16, 2025 by MissCrow

[lanolyt]

I guess that punishment can also be tongue in cheek. As in, what was done wasn't very bad, but is a fun excuse. 

Other things like a very soft leather glove, aftercare salve or kissing. 

I'd agree funishment is generally more enjoyable.

Though some do want to play a brat character whose writer wants them tamed, but that is a different dynamic.

[MissCrow]

Yes ^^ It's agreed on to be roleplayed as a punishment, but it's actually fun-ishment. 

Aw, the soft leather glove and salve sounds so adorable. That would be a very good read. /sighs/. I wish writers or roleplayers explored that side of BDSM more.

Bratty characters are usually ones I tend to avoid as it isn't my cup of tea as a dom and sub. I played a bratty sub once, and I hated the character with a passion. There is a respectful way to brat, but it feels like some characters use it as an excuse to be a jerk (like my character.) The dom liked it that way, we agreed upon it that way, but I was half-invested. I didn't like my character until she started to improve as a person.

As a dom, I'm a baby dom, and I think im too inexperienced to handle brats. And Im too soft to handle them. Im a Soft Dom. Im not interested in forcing someone to obey me.