Romantic, Casual, or Lustful?

[Mysthero]

Kinda a slow day this morning, so i thought it would be REALLY fun to have a discussion with all of you!

When you are having sex, RPing, or even phone sex if you are into that, what is your favorite preference on the behavior of your partner?

While you think about that for a second, I will give you some perameters.

These are not all encompassing, but it's just a way to look at each individual answer.

Romantic: This behavior is usually based on mutual respect, trust and emotional bonding. It's not about achieving powerful orgasms, although you certainly still could! It's more about enjoying one another, completely and fully. Usually involving a lot of kissing, long and warm embraces, and lovemaking that can potentially last for hours.

Examples of behavior: Eye contact, may be quiet, lots of touching and embracing.

Casual: This is more along the lines of 'ends justify the means'. The aproach to pleasure is a reaction to sexual arousal. For example, you are watching porn with a friend whom you have no romantic interest in, however you both achieve a state of arousal due to the porn and decide to help one another achieve orgasm rather than going alone. Friends with benefits is another example. Maybe you are in a relationship but you have that one person in your phone who knows how to make you cum quickly and effeciently so you still visit them from time to time so you can still enjoy that casual feeling.

Examples of behavior: Possibly talking about unrelated subjects during sex, most eye contact occurs during orgasm, minimal touching or embracing, often used for quickies.

Lustful: What more is there to say? That raw animal magnetism. You don't want to marry this person but physically you NEED them! They are the one that somehow always make you feel like the star in your own porn. Hell, maybe you are filming it right now!

Examples of behavior: Loud moans, can be very vocal, can be messy, can be rough-fast-hard. Primary focus on the body over any kind of emotional or social connection.

 

Now that we have our perameters, I will give my answer format for yall!

Real Sex: Romanctic/Casual

Sometimes there is nothing better for me personally than to get to know someone emotionally and then take them home and really take the time to explore them physically. To find all their pleasure zones and make them feel wanted and loved! When I have the option to spend the whole night with my lover, I do my best to make the most of it, to show that I want to make them happy and enjoy every minute.

On the other side of the spectrum for me, when you have a good casual relationship... sometimes it's just awesome to have that friend you can hang out with who will unbutton her pants before looking at you and asking "We got some time, wanna fuck me real quick?" I, mean, rhat can be such a turn on!

Phone Sex: Lustful

 

Maybe it's because I haven't exactly had the real 'Porn Star Experience', I mean, I did once, she was loud, bouncy, behaved like a hentai girl, (one eye closed while panting loudly). But she wasn't exactly steller in bed. I hate to say that about someone but I just didn't have that much fun with her, despite her being very vocal. (Personally it felt forced and faked.) but on the phone, I love the fantasy of being craved and desired. It is exciting to hear someone moan your name loudly while you know they are furiously masturbating to you.

RP: ALL

Because I kinda get off on arousing my partners. I love the idea of providing what they want! A lustful encounter, or a building flame of love. Admitingly, I don't do very much Casual in RP, but I would like to try it sometime!

 

Alright, so, I would love to hear your thoughts on this! If you have any other scenarios. (Sexting, Webcam, ect.) Feel free to add them to the list! 

[Neptune]

I roleplay a wide range of characters, with many different personalities and desires. As such, what I want from a partner is entirely dependant on the character that I am roleplaying as. Some of my characters will never want a romantic encounter. They're too cold, or they just are not interested in it. But other characters will only want romantic encounters. They're not ones for cold, hard sex. 

I enjoy playing a nice diverse set of characters, as they're all unique in their own way. It also allows for me to RP a whole wide range of encounters. 

[Mysthero]

I can completely understand that.

I only recently (like in the last year) have been able to expand my smut writing outside of romance. I kinda had to... I had a character who was a pit fighter and my partner was playing a hooker. Well... needless to say, Romance just didn't fit either character so I had to change how I typically write smut to fit the premise. I'm still growing as a writer obviously so I enjoyed the experience.

[Neptune]

I find myself growing and expanding as a writer all the time. I used to focus more on romance than lust-filled encounters but as I developed more characters I continued expanding. And some of my characters will do both, depending on their mood. So, even with the same character, it might change depending on what they're after xD

[Harmony Frost]

You guys sound so mature and cool in your responses...lol I'm not as open, but that could be from lack of personal sexual experience. Aside from sexting and phone sex which needs to be lustful. Like extremely. Nothing makes me cream more than hearing a man's groans of completion.

Most of my characters are extensions of myself really and as I am a highly romantic person, so are they. Not to say that they can't be lustful. Sometimes that's just the best way to be in a given situation, but I doubt they could ever be casual.

I've tried casual rps and they always make me lose interest. As will pure smut. Some people think it's boring but I absolutely adore fluffiness in a roleplay and it's a turn on actually. Well, for me anyway. Maybe one day I can expand my writing talents like you two but until then those are my preferences.

[Headless]

I'm sort of at the opposite of Harmony here, I think, in that I'm kind of open to anything because I lack experience, be it personal or in rp.  I'm the type that can't say I don't like it if I haven't tried it.

Though, I do prefer romance to anything that's just purely physical or hit-and-go. I think that's mostly because I really enjoy writing up my characters and watching how they change in the rp (or don't change if it's that type of character, but imo even that is a form of development). That isn't to say that casual and lust type rps can't have character development. It's just much rarer... I think.

[Mysthero]

One of my lonngest running rp partbers would call that 'meat'. As in, the story, character development, sexual tension and romantic buildup in an RP would be the main meal, well balanced, savory, and filling. The smut, becomes the dessert and is all the more satisfying at the end of a meal.

....anyone else hungry?

[smash642]

As a virgin, I really don't know how useful my answers could be in regards to the discussion, especially as this topic was first posted quite a while ago. But as someone that does want to explore his sexual side a bit more, I want to offer my take for the three things you mentioned.

 

Romantic: This is probably the one I'm going to end up waiting for the longest irl, in comparison to the other two. I'm not exactly on the lookout for a romantic relationship, even though I do have a girl in mind haha. Part of me thinks I'm just not ready for such a committed relationship at this stage in my life (I'm only about to enter my second year of uni!). In the off chance I do plan on getting a girl in bed, I want to make sure that this isn't out of actual love. I don't want to feel like I'm just using her for sex if she feels like this will lead to an actual relationship. On the other hand, when I'm with a girl I truly like, I think the romantic chemistry between us two could end up making the act more pleasurable in the end. In the past, I confused a sexual desire and attraction as the sign of love. Whilst I'm not making that same mistake anymore, I think I need to grow a bit more as a person before tackling real life love :P.

For roleplay, I don't mind it. As I'm more into the erotic side of things, as long as something hot is going on, I'm grand. However, if my partner would like to incorporate the sense of romance into the story, I wouldn't say no. I feel it could lead to some interesting scenarios in case we ever decide to roleplay again, as well as it doing no harm in general.
 

Casual: I actually quite like this idea. This is mainly because I have quite a few friends in my uni circle I'd just like to casually fool around with; either just once, or actually become fuck buddies. Nothing romantic between us, just the want to have some fun with each other and help each other out a bit. On the other hand, I don't want it to be just about the climax. I want to make sure that my partner is having a good time, as well as myself. Having plain cold sex, without much attraction or feeling between the two, defeats the passion behind sex in my opinion. In addition, I wouldn't want it to be at the cost of our friendship. Of course, it would be different even after one of us simply brings it up. But, as I said, I want there to be a feeling (mainly of fun in these kind of scenarios) between us two, not just the thought "Well I want to cum somehow". On a final note for reality, as much as I'd love the idea of just casually watching porn with a female friend, I doubt it'd ever happen lol.

Now, I actually dislike the idea in roleplay, in the sense of 'justifying the means to an end'. When I roleplay, I want to be able to feel something when I'm writing my character, as well as reading what I'm supposed to be interacting to. I want to be exotic and erotic in what I write, not having a thought of strictly having to get off from it.

 

Lustful: Now this is the one that turns me on the most out of the three, naturally ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°). Whilst I think sex is important for a healthy relationship with your partner, a raw passion for the act is also quite necessary. I feel the desire for pleasure is rooted within each of us, and sex helps to bring this vital part of our nature out. Despite being one of the deadly sins, it's an essential part of us, whether it's a lot or not much at all. If she's feeling pleasure, then I am too, and I want to see it shown. If we're lovers, friends, or even just met each other for a one night stand, this is a crucial component for the act. I just hope I get to live long enough to actually find out for myself.

When roleplaying, as one with a sexual and admittedly perverted mind, I want to be as descriptive as possible for the most erotic experience possible. The innate feeling of lust is a key part of this. This extends to all forms of erotic media, not just roleplay. Sexting, webcam play, porn... I have enjoyed roleplaying, but at other times, I just want to flirt and exchange nudes with other people. Even if they don't want to show off what they have, I like seeing reactions to what I'm packing. If they enjoyed it (regardless of their gender), then I'm enjoying it haha. I've even tried uploading pics on the internet too, and I think it's made me more confident overall for when I do have my first time. With porn, the feeling of lust is so important. Like my personal experiences, if people are doing it just for the sake of doing it (i.e: it's their job), I get somewhat less aroused. That's why I turn more to amateur content than just the mainstream pornstar material, as it's easier to see they just love to do it.

 

Massive apologies for the essay on this forum haha. I may have said too much, but I like this topic quite a bit, so sorry for possibly sharing too much!

[Mysthero]

@smash642

Despite the necromancy performed on the topic, I found your answer well thought out and insightful!

[Nyaa~Chan]

Phone sex - I like it being completely lustful. I love that feeling I get when I somehow trick myself into making it feel like they are actually there! I love being able to be the one that gets other people off too! It makes me feel like I am doing someone a favor! Except it’s much more than that!

Roleplay - I am often rotating between them. Sometimes I like romantic because I like it when my character is made to feel special and loved while she (or he if that’s the kind of roleplay I am in >.>) am held and my partner finds and exploits every sensetive point on my body! 

I also love it Lustful when we are unleashing our darkest desires and just going all out with our fetishes and kinks. I like it because I start to really get the feeling that we are really into it and... Yeah! Anyways I like that a lot! Lol

I don’t like casual to much because it feels more fake when it happens like that.

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I just realized the last post was a while ago... Huh...

[kingddude]

Real life: Romantic and lustful 

rp : all of the above 

[Elyana Natasya]

Real life: both lust and romantic

Roleplay: lust

Phone sex: lust

Video call: lust

I know i know! Im just too kinky and perverted XD

[Mysthero]

Nothing wrong with that! Lol