Newbie here!

[Commandersd16]

Hi everyone! I have been wanting to start roleplaying for quite a while now and I am trying my luck on some of these sites. I have posted a starter scene I have in mind if you would like to give it a read! 

I'm a straight guy, but mainly a switch. I have a cheating/cuckolding kink due to being cheated on in my current relationship. 

Nice to meet you all!

[Gidgy]

Welcome!

...And I have so many questions -- none of which you have to answer, so ignore if it's too personal!

So like....regarding how you getted your kink...

Is that a really bad thing that happened and you managed to turn it into an empowering kink?

Or is it something that normally would have been bad but instead of being bad it was like super hot so like WOOHOO more cheating please!!

No judgement at all -- just really curious how that works!

[Commandersd16]

12 hours ago, Gidgy said:

Welcome!

...And I have so many questions -- none of which you have to answer, so ignore if it's too personal!

So like....regarding how you getted your kink...

Is that a really bad thing that happened and you managed to turn it into an empowering kink?

Or is it something that normally would have been bad but instead of being bad it was like super hot so like WOOHOO more cheating please!!

No judgement at all -- just really curious how that works!

Thanks for your interest!

Yeah, sort of! I got cheated on, and when it first happened it completely crushed me. Thought it was the end our my relationship (actually still with my girlfriend now which probably has something to do about it all). After I healed, and a little time passed, the more and more I felt myself actually enjoying and accepting what happened which was wild to me. I always found cheating concepts hot in porn or erotica for example. Tons of factors built up for me to finally sit back and admit to myself I enjoyed my girlfriend cheating on me. 

The cucking aspect stems from a similar path, too. I actually know the guy who my girlfriend cheated with. I spent three years on the same course as him at University and he was someone I considered a pal. He spoke to me about what went down with my girlfriend. His approach was EXTREMELY honest with me, which looking back now is insanely hot to me. He apologised to me, told me it was nothing personal, but he didn't regret what happened with my girlfriend and would fuck her again in a heartbeat. He used those exact words which I will never forget. 

Neither my girlfriend, or the dude involved know about my kinks. Honestly, I wouldn't be open to her cheating on me again, but I'd be lying if I told you I didn't want anything to happen between her and the guy again. 

Hope that answers your questions a little and sorry if it's a bit of waffle or doesn't make sense!

[Gidgy]

Oh that's really interesting! Kinks often (usually?) aren't logical, so it not need to make sense to either of us really, but I think I understand you. It would be interesting to see what would happen if she DID sleep with him again. And would it matter that she did it with or without your consent? Like was it the cucking (humiliation) or the cheating (betrayal) that made it hot? Or maybe both? Either way it's a really terrific way to end a cheating story that otherwise could have been really sad or hurtful.

I've been cheated on before (it devastated me). And I've cheated before (not proud of it). I've also been in an open relationships before and while in them I tried to embrace compersion for my partners hoping to change my naturally jealous nature into one where sexual fidelity wasn't the required to feel relationally secure. I have abandonment issues though and I think they made it really really hard. My partner seeing someone else always felt like a threat to me -- why wouldn't they want the other person way more than me? One of my partners was married even with kids. He knew we were more than friends and were dating, but I actually never asked (and maybe didn't want to know) if he knew that we were being sexual with each other. He was super nice and I didn't want him to feel bad for it. Yay for insecurities!

I never had a cucking/cheating fetish but I've met a lot of people who have them (more cucking than cheating, and I think they were always men). Many of them liked humiliation and I think that was the root of their kink. Cucking is just the atom bomb of humiliation for a lot of people. There may be girls who like it too, but I haven't met any yet. 

I'd love to personally get to the place where I wouldn't feel anything negative about my partner wanting to have a relationship or sex with other people. I know others in the poly world who are as close to there as I think possible (they all have insecurities too). I think it's super healthy.

I'm not there yet and my current relationships is with a girl who I met while I was poly and so was she. Once we fell for each other things changed though. We started to both get jealous of the other person's relationships. It took us a few weeks to have all of the breakup conversations to get to just being us two. Vanilla people wouldn't understand that at all lol. 

Anyway if I'm ever single again I'll probably give poly another try. It was a fun experiment, even if I can't quite make compersion work.

[Commandersd16]

3 minutes ago, Gidgy said:

Oh that's really interesting! Kinks often (usually?) aren't logical, so it not need to make sense to either of us really, but I think I understand you. It would be interesting to see what would happen if she DID sleep with him again. And would it matter that she did it with or without your consent? Like was it the cucking (humiliation) or the cheating (betrayal) that made it hot? Or maybe both? Either way it's a really terrific way to end a cheating story that otherwise could have been really sad or hurtful.

I've been cheated on before (it devastated me). And I've cheated before (not proud of it). I've also been in an open relationships before and while in them I tried to embrace compersion for my partners hoping to change my naturally jealous nature into one where sexual fidelity wasn't the required to feel relationally secure. I have abandonment issues though and I think they made it really really hard. My partner seeing someone else always felt like a threat to me -- why wouldn't they want the other person way more than me? One of my partners was married even with kids. He knew we were more than friends and were dating, but I actually never asked (and maybe didn't want to know) if he knew that we were being sexual with each other. He was super nice and I didn't want him to feel bad for it. Yay for insecurities!

I never had a cucking/cheating fetish but I've met a lot of people who have them (more cucking than cheating, and I think they were always men). Many of them liked humiliation and I think that was the root of their kink. Cucking is just the atom bomb of humiliation for a lot of people. There may be girls who like it too, but I haven't met any yet. 

I'd love to personally get to the place where I wouldn't feel anything negative about my partner wanting to have a relationship or sex with other people. I know others in the poly world who are as close to there as I think possible (they all have insecurities too). I think it's super healthy.

I'm not there yet and my current relationships is with a girl who I met while I was poly and so was she. Once we fell for each other things changed though. We started to both get jealous of the other person's relationships. It took us a few weeks to have all of the breakup conversations to get to just being us two. Vanilla people wouldn't understand that at all lol. 

Anyway if I'm ever single again I'll probably give poly another try. It was a fun experiment, even if I can't quite make compersion work.

That's interesting as well! My ideal situation, would be something to happen behind my back, and then find out about it. Catching them in the act, which relates to voyeurism I believe. It's a mix of both, and they both mix with each other so damn nicely in my situation. Me and my girlfriend were each others only sexual partners before this guy, too. Now, it feels he tainted her with his dick, lmao. Silly little things like that build up in my head which triggers me so intensely, but in the best of ways.

Props to you for trying a polygamous relationship! Don't think I could personally do it, I'm way too jealous/insecure for something like that, oh dear. Isn't that kind of cute though? You and your girlfriend both being poly, and then both changing your mind when you fell for each other? I kind of like that. Or, do you think you still want to have sex with other people whilst in this relationship? Hope you don't mind me asking! Your side of the story is interesting as well. 

[Gidgy]

I think for both of us we'd be okay having sex with other people, we just wouldn't want the other person to do it.  It's probably a trust thing. Like I trust myself that no matter who I slept with I'd still want her. But I don't trust her to do that. And I'm pretty sure she trusts herself to do it, but not me.

 

I tell her that she messed up poly for me

[Commandersd16]

Thought I would add something to this. Interesting to me, and hopefully for anyone else reading this. The guy who my girlfriend cheated on me with is actually back in her/our lives now as a friend. After years of not seeing each other. Pretty interesting to see how this develops, and I love how it's happening after my original post on this. I'm going to make this my diary now and keep regular updates. If anyone wants to stick along for the ride, feel welcome  

[Infinite]

Welcome, and enjoy yourself!

[Commandersd16]

4 minutes ago, Infinite said:

Welcome, and enjoy yourself!

Thank you, friend! 

[SMFoxy]

10 hours ago, Commandersd16 said:

I'm going to make this my diary now and keep regular updates. If anyone wants to stick along for the ride, feel welcome  

If you plan on making this a diary, I might actually suggest that you start a topic in a more appropriate forum section.
Perhaps Sex and Relationships, or Personal Stories, would be a better place?

Please note, this is not to discourage you from talking about your kinks/experiences, just to let you know that there may be forums more suited for sharing in.

[Commandersd16]

18 hours ago, SMFoxy said:

If you plan on making this a diary, I might actually suggest that you start a topic in a more appropriate forum section.
Perhaps Sex and Relationships, or Personal Stories, would be a better place?

Please note, this is not to discourage you from talking about your kinks/experiences, just to let you know that there may be forums more suited for sharing in.

Sorry I’m still pretty new to this! Thanks for your suggestion I really appreciate that