How many people here are in relationships

[Lonely]

How many dreamer are married, dating, in a situationship or single?
I'm painfully single

[Django The High Shaman]

I'm been single since my early 20's

[Moon Hound Hati]

Been single for a few years now.

[MapleTheif Deactivated]

I am here in a relationship… but also painfully lonely.

Edited December 16, 2024 by MapleTheif

[Starcry]

I'm in a relationship and I am happy. He knows I write and doesn't really mind because to quote "It is just words, it's not real and you aren't going to run away with whoever is behind the screen." We have been together for a very long time and got a civil partnership to protect our daughter. I think I got lucky to have found someone special to me. ^^

[IsabellaRose]

I probably spent as many years single and dating/hooking up the younger people here have been alive. I both hated and loved that time, and even though I always felt empty, I never allowed any of those intimate pairings to turn into more. I'd lost love pretty brutally early on and was scared to risk it again. 

Just after pandemic lockdown I accidentally fell into a relationship with a friend who needed a place to live. I almost ran away again, but convinced myself not to, and it somehow is working better than I could have imagined, or probably deserve. I am happier than I could ever imagine being.

[Starcry]

1 hour ago, IsabellaRose said:

I probably spent as many years single and dating/hooking up the younger people here have been alive. I both hated and loved that time, and even though I always felt empty, I never allowed any of those intimate pairings to turn into more. I'd lost love pretty brutally early on and was scared to risk it again. 

Just after pandemic lockdown I accidentally fell into a relationship with a friend who needed a place to live. I almost ran away again, but convinced myself not to, and it somehow is working better than I could have imagined, or probably deserve. I am happier than I could ever imagine being.

I think as long as you are both really happy with each other then nothing else matters. Happiness comes when you least expect it.  

[IsabellaRose]

48 minutes ago, Starcry said:

I think as long as you are both really happy with each other then nothing else matters. Happiness comes when you least expect it.  

That is so true! I wasn't even looking and certain I'd missed any chance, but it happened out of nowhere!

[Pixel]

43 minutes ago, IsabellaRose said:

That is so true! I wasn't even looking and certain I'd missed any chance, but it happened out of nowhere!

That's usually how it happens. When you least expect it. 

[IsabellaRose]

16 minutes ago, Pixel said:

That's usually how it happens. When you least expect it. 

I mean, there's history with us - bad timing, failed attempts, running away, denying feelings, resentment and pettiness... I think once we both forgave each other for past mistakes, let go of our expectations, and decided to live in the moment it just started working. But yeah, we went into it not even really considering the possibility. When you least expect it, indeed.

[Rodeo]

I too am painfully single, despite being a usually social forward guy.  Unfortunately, with how women have treated me over the years I've developed a social anxiety towards women.  Which is only amplified by the fact that if I ever try to talk publicly about it I only get berated by people calling me things like incel, or saying that I deserve how I'm treated on the soul grounds of me being a man.
 

*insert the part where I elaborated on this further by giving real life examples, only to delete it because I knew it would result in exactly what I said would happen*

[Pixel]

Everyone can understand being hurt, there's not much need for elaboration beyond that, damages, trauma, etc. are best left to discuss with people you want to be intimate with, when you're comfortable sharing it. I've got my own damages that have surfaced at highly inopportune times that have ruined things for me in the past, myself.

Generally the term "incel" is reserved for people who show a sense of entitlement to relationships, sex, etc, and their personality gives away exactly why they're sexless and single. If you're not one of those people I wouldn't say you're an incel by "urban dictionary" definition.

[Rodeo]

2 minutes ago, Pixel said:

Everyone can understand being hurt, there's not much need for elaboration beyond that, damages, trauma, etc. are best left to discuss with people you want to be intimate with, when you're comfortable sharing it. I've got my own damages that have surfaced at highly inopportune times that have ruined things for me in the past, myself.

Generally the term "incel" is reserved for people who show a sense of entitlement to relationships, sex, etc, and their personality gives away exactly why they're sexless and single. If you're not one of those people I wouldn't say you're an incel by "urban dictionary" definition.

Oh, I never said I was ACCURATELY called it, just that the term was tossed at me.  I'm sure anyone here who has gotten to know me is like "Dub-ya tea eff, that makes no sense."

Edited December 17, 2024 by Rodeo

[AmberBi]

Well, I got lucky enough to have two great relationships in my life time.  With my husband who I lost 12 years ago now, and with my current boyfriend.  Both open minded, awesome guys in their own way.  Boyfriend knows about me making stories with whoever wants to, and is all fine with it.  He knows who I cuddle up with at night.  .  

And yes, good relationships happen when you least expect it.  These two guys I know are proof of that. 

[nicjomo]

Im single, however I feel like Ive been growing a bond with a person for the past year. Since they've been around, I've made a lot more good choices for myself like stepping away from a friendship that no longer served me, moving out of my parents house so that I could have my private time with people, etc. Ive focused on the fun the two of us have had, but lately been wanting to go deeper with them. I kinda feel like I fumbled the ball by revealing my feelings too early, but it didnt scare them away. And they have still acted the same towards me.

[Calphur]

Have had a lot of relationships over the years and just now gotten out of an odd relationship two months ago and currently single as a pringle. Probably lot of figuring out to do before I start growing emotional bonds to others- then again, messing around in the meantime is fine, I've taken to being physically intimate as a means of self-validation which is... m. Dubious practice, dare I say. Alleviated a little by Lovense and the like existing though lol. It's the first time ever I'd choose to not get involved with someone though, last relationship feels like it took a fair bit of 'me' away from myself. Gotta piece stuff back together in the meantime.

[Leo0]

Single for a few while now, but I would rather be alone than to give the opportunity for someone to hurt me again. Not sure how long I have been single, just letting things come and go, like the river in a way.

Edited December 20, 2024 by Leo0

[BigBadWolf]

Been single for a long time. Relationship ended on good terms but haven't been one since, one night stands/flings sure. Im honestly have zero intention to hunt for love as dating in these times just isnt worth it as a guy.

Rather just meet someone naturally in my everyday life than browsing a dating app for hours, chatting with a match for hours, only for it to go nowhere, be catfished, be someones free dinner etc. Never happened to me personally, since i never went on dating apps, but saw it happen to friends alot. Especially the free meal one.

[Toxicherz]

Currently living with the guy I’ve been dating for over a decade, but things haven’t been the greatest for various reasons and quite frankly I don’t know if things are going to end or not.  I do know for certain he’s the last guy that I will ever date and won’t partake in any committed relationships with another guy after him.

 

I do have a long distance girlfriend—met her back in 2019 on another rp site, and she has visited us a bunch of times.  Our relationship is far more intimate and sensual on deep emotional levels than it is sexual…not to say that there isn’t any sexual attraction or the like there, for there very much is.  >.>

[Rodeo]

5 minutes ago, Toxicherz said:

Currently living with the guy I’ve been dating for over a decade, but things haven’t been the greatest for various reasons and quite frankly I don’t know if things are going to end or not.  I do know for certain he’s the last guy that I will ever date and won’t partake in any committed relationships with another guy after him.

 

I do have a long distance girlfriend—met her back in 2019 on another rp site, and she has visited us a bunch of times.  Our relationship is far more intimate and sensual on deep emotional levels than it is sexual…not to say that there isn’t any sexual attraction or the like there, for there very much is.  >.>

I'm sorry to hear that your experiences have turned you off from men entirely. But I am glad to hear you have such a great connection with this other person.  Here's hoping the sex is just as good!

[Azalyn]

Single. I daydream through dark romance books. Lol. 

It's going to take a lot for me to date again.

[Rodeo]

33 minutes ago, Azalyn said:

Single. I daydream through dark romance books. Lol. 

It's going to take a lot for me to date again.

It's ok, I'll be your boyfriend and do lewd things with you.  Like hold your hand.

[Azalyn]

30 minutes ago, Rodeo said:

It's ok, I'll be your boyfriend and do lewd things with you.  Like hold your hand.

Hand-holding is the most efficient way to achieve peak arousal. 

[nicjomo]

this is very true with me ^

I cant tell you hoe may times a girl might touch my hand, and I may not like them, but...a reaction happens.

 

[Pixel]

11 minutes ago, nicjomo said:

this is very true with me ^

I cant tell you hoe may times a girl might touch my hand, and I may not like them, but...a reaction happens.

 

The Lonely Island wrote a song about that