The list of shame: Our bad RP experiences.

[JennyDK]

Some of you may have read one or more of my instances where I have encountered various rude and prick-ish behaviour from potential partners or gotten really weird/creepy/sick or other extraordinary type of offer.
So after I have gotten quite a lot over time I wondered about what others may have experienced and are wanting to share between us. Most often, these come from F-list on my part, though a few still makes the "list" from ED. Of course, I will try my best to avoid mentioning anyone by name.

I guess you could call this our "list of shame. Feel free to share any you may have had yourselves.

Here is some my most recent ones. Most often, there is no more context than what you see.

I was quickly blocked by the 1st and 2nd profile. I do not recall if the 3rd one did this or not. Sadly, all three do illustrate the very toxic parts of the community. You can argue the 2nd is not so bad as they did not berate me for no reason, but it seems rather rude to do what they did still.

[Somethingsomething]

Haha the last one. Oh dear. I always wonder what happened to people for them to become so toxic and disrespectful.

[JennyDK]

21 minutes ago, Somethingsomething said:

Haha the last one. Oh dear. I always wonder what happened to people for them to become so toxic and disrespectful.

I am guessing that one is most likely some sad IRL beta male idiot who think this is what being "masculine", dominant and such is all about xD

Then when you don't play along with their revolting power fantasies, they can only respond by being a massive asshole and toxic.

[AmaruSylveon]

Man I understand that all three of these are crazy infuriating. But the second one is the most mind boggling.

Like the first I understand being mad at not reading the profile. But I'd never berate someone for it. It could simply be confusing and I'm guilty of just checking out if our kinks line up.

And the third is obviously just rude and somebody who doesn't understand that not everybody enjoys that semi-IC stuff that most put out.

But the second one is crazy! I don't know what you did wrong there? Did he dislike your response? It was only three words and it was granting premission to continue. That's the type of shit that makes me log off for the day. 

 

I will say on a personal level I get mad when people attempt to talk IRL when I'm clearly not in the mood. Someone started asking personal IRL infomation, like location and such. And when I guessed the same state that he lived in he wouldn't give up asking about where I was or asking about my job! I eventually ignored him, but that sent shivers down my spine. Certainly my second least favorite interaction on F-List

[JennyDK]

I merely asked a question and they could have told me I could read their profile to learn more. They were the one who PMed me and not the other way around. It is very much overreacting to me stating a simple question.

Oh shit! That sounds creepy as fuck and I am glad you chose to walk away from that one. Yikes, what a nasty person

Yeah, I am pretty stunned why someone gets a positive response all the way suddenly just blocks people. Then again, being blocked on F-list is like shooting fish in a barrel with dynamite.

[AmaruSylveon]

I agree. I could never imagine what made them so mad to go off so hard. I think people on that sight have such a stick up their bum all the time. Some nights it's super frustrating.

He just couldn't understand that I like a lot of space between me and my RP's. But I would say that's the biggest way to get me really mad is to just break that boundary and the assume that I want that. Or just assumption in general. Assuming things about me because of what I care about is the biggest sin in my humble opinion. Not to rant too much. 

[pH_Scale]

Can't have bad RP experiences if you don't have RPs

Although in what few RPs I'm in, I'm blessed with wonderful people.

[Elena Ichinomiya]

My, that toxicity and confusion sure make our conversation back in the day sounds like a gossiping mom isn't it?

Anyway, to be fair, there's always one dick or two in every type of community. Believe me when i said i bump into that kind of people even on ED back when i'm still new. I also don't get it either, why they assume i'm gonna like what they like? And why antagonizing people just because the clashing kink? Not only that, they also leaving a lame remark just because its cool when its not. I've been there for some time and nope, i still don't find such attitude is cool. The way i see it, they just want quick jerk off but found out that most porn site are blocked in their region. Adult RP site didn't catch much attention for block, hence the freak show in your inbox.

At least those fellow only make witty intro and remark at you. Tell you what, I got at least 2 brazen hotshot for few months who send their dick pic as introduction and acting hot. Of course you know what i'm doing next so i just cut to the chase; i told them i like pretzel. Sounds BS i know, but why speaking straight when they being alien themselves?

But on the bright side, at least i got something for my "Wonky RP experience" post so i guess there's profit

[JennyDK]

5 hours ago, Elena Ichinomiya said:

My, that toxicity and confusion sure make our conversation back in the day sounds like a gossiping mom isn't it?

Do you mean the weird stuff between us before?

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I am kind of glad that our chat thing got redundant and died, which means having less shit like this sent my way xD

[Elena Ichinomiya]

Hah! That's rich! I remember back in February last year, there's this maniac asking me for RP through EcchiChat (god i miss this feature!). I refuse since the RP suggested hit my turn off kink, nicely.

Things gone south in weird way. That maniac rhyming at me for whatever the reason and goes on and on about how terrible i am refusing their RP. Imagine any bad rapper you know, but 10 times worse and still count 1+1 with their finger. And no, its not over just like that. When i login next day, the chat ping show 98 unread message full of bad rhyme and other neurotic slurs you could imagine. Here i thought my poetry skill was bad! Lucky for that lunatic, i didn't know how to report harassment through EChat back then because that fellow is pretty much on thin ice if i know how.

98 unread message! I don't think i can screenshot that one.

I mean, come on, rhyming about groin grow a tits? Am i suppose to laugh? You be the judge

[JennyDK]

Wow, that's pretty insane o.O
Certainly not something I have experienced myself. At least not in the same sort of way. What did you end up doing? Did you block them or what?

For me, it is mostly the same users who has PMed me before and got heavily rejected. They PM me and I tell them something that they overlooked I don't do and we part ways, only for them to later contact me (often with the EXACT same approach) and I make them aware of them doing the same thing over again -,-

[Elena Ichinomiya]

On 22/08/2021 at 16:13, JennyDK said:

What did you end up doing? Did you block them or what?

As i mentioned on my post, i didn't know how to report harassment on EChat until pretty much later when admin tell me how to do it so that maniac is pretty much lucky getting off the hook. But i don't need to bother anyway since that fellow just vanish into thin air month later and so on. I don't think they would get any RP if their intro is just poor piss rhyme plus me-me-me attitude anyway. Just replying to that maniac alone is already a generous feat i ever done to any pot-head i ever encounter. They should be grateful.

On 22/08/2021 at 16:13, JennyDK said:

For me, it is mostly the same users who has PMed me before and got heavily rejected. They PM me and I tell them something that they overlooked I don't do and we part ways, only for them to later contact me (often with the EXACT same approach) and I make them aware of them doing the same thing over again -,-

I got one of those people too. When i point out what the hell, they said something along the line "that's my relatives using my account, they jerk, but i'm not". As you expect, they treat me just as bad as their "relatives" and still persist they're different user. So i call off the RP. Never ever lie if you suck at lying especially when trying to save your face because it would make it worse, that's the lesson here in my experience. Maybe next time i'll bump into someone saying "I discontinue this RP because my dog eat my EcchiText so let's make new one" as an excuse to have another try to RPing me...and my patience.

 

[JennyDK]

Haha, yes. Giving them any of your time, effort and thoughts is very much a wasted effort and way too good for those people. Totally with you on that one!

39 minutes ago, Elena Ichinomiya said:

I got one of those people too. When i point out what the hell, they said something along the line "that's my relatives using my account, they jerk, but i'm not". As you expect, they treat me just as bad as their "relatives" and still persist they're different user. So i call off the RP. Never ever lie if you suck at lying especially when trying to save your face because it would make it worse, that's the lesson here in my experience. Maybe next time i'll bump into someone saying "I discontinue this RP because my dog eat my EcchiText so let's make new one" as an excuse to have another try to RPing me...and my patience.

Wow, people really say stuff like that? Like I would ever want to share such a thing with a family member. I like to keep stuff like erotic roleplaying pretty private personally. Of course, I cannot speak for anyone else, but I have a hard time imagining many would even consider doing such a thing. I usually hear the excuse "I must have overlooked that thing" and variations of the same deal.

[Quotation]

Seeing this list made me remember a very uncomfortable RP I once had, at least the person suggesting the idea was very awkward and dismissive. 

A long time ago, when I was just getting used to roleplaying on D*scord I stumbled upon an erotic roleplay server. At the time I was quite shy, I mean to this day I still am when it comes to starting new roleplays, but anyways, someone opened up a new roleplay with me and it was about some story with a god character or something. I was meant to play that character, but they were quite vague on what the story was or what we’d be doing in it. They also had me write a sampler text, basically showing off how much I could write which now I think is a little unnecessary, but aside from that. We ‘started’ and I was a little confused where to begin, because we didn’t really discuss much even though I asked multiple questions. 

I don’t remember much of what happened, but I do recall how they were just being incredibly snarky with me. I will admit that it was probably my fault for not knowing where to begin, yet at the same time they were just so... Pretentious. I remember asking something like,  “Wait, what should the setting be?”  A question along those lines, and they’re just like,  “You’re literally a god character.”  And that was basically their response for anything I asked, no matter how simple my questions would be. But hey, what can you do? Some people just can’t be bothered to help out once in a while. Though this story was definitely tame compared to your guys’. 

[JennyDK]

Why did you censor "Discord"?

Wow....holy fuck. That person has NO idea how to work with their partners. Furthermore, it seems they expect you to know EXACTLY what they are thinking in regards to story, setting, kinks, characters....well, basically everything. How can someone like that even get partners, is beyond me as this is just as conceited as it can get. It is especially important to get a feel for your partners and what they want, how they want to do things and many other things. A roleplay is a collectively planned thing, no matter how you go about it - unless you are this fucking stupid.

What do you mean by 'tame' compared to us? Like very vanilla?

[Quotation]

I censored it because it’s icky! Icky icky grody! Me no like anymore, hmph!  (>///<)

But yes, I’ve learned to always discuss roleplays before starting them, which is something I should’ve been doing for such a long time. I feel like it could’ve turned out better if I was more confrontational, but I’ve been over it. And by tame, I guess it could be considered vanilla. I mean that’s it not as scary, creepy, or just blatantly rude as your guys’ experiences. Like the ones you first shared, I don’t think I’ve ever been called any names by failed roleplay partners. It’s astonishing how people are so disrespectful just because they don’t get to immediately play out their power fantasies, like that third guy you shared. 

[JennyDK]

Why do you dislike Discord? If I may ask.

Oohhh, I thought you meant something else by "tame" - more as in the roleplays here contra the one you almost got into. Now it makes a whole lot more sense. Sadly, the most issues I have had, has been with male or futa profiles. I cannot confirm anything, but I have a suspicion that the really nasty and mean futa profiles are indeed the aforementioned IRL beta faggots who think they are being "dominant" and "alpha" with these attitudes and approaches. Why? Well, most females don't try to be masculine XD

I also have plenty more "material" I can share of failed attempts with other people xD

It is good to hear that you found an issue and then worked on it. I am sure some people find me annoying when it comes to planning, since I want to go over key things like: Characters, plot, setting, kinks and so on....but rather do that early on, than potentially fucking things up and having to correct stuff along the way.

[Quotation]

I gotta say, I hate that type of attitude in roleplays, or just in male characters in general. I’m probably biased since I play more timid characters usually, but yeah I can’t stand the whole wanna-be dominant thing. Especially if it’s in a ‘story’ that hasn’t even been discussed. And like you said, the people who solely obsess over being dominant in writing are probably... Well, not very dominant in real life. I also find it embarrassing to correct errors in my replies, so I’m glad most of this site’s people are good with discussing before jumping into the whole thing! 

But to answer your question, it’s not that I don’t like Discord, but I have basically no one to talk to. And a lot of my really good friends there are gone, and some of them have just gotten like... Creepy. One time a friend of mine thought I was a woman, so one day they sent me a... Well, interesting picture. Despite them having a girlfriend apparently, but they quickly realized what they did and moved on. So yeah, just not my cup of tea anymore. 

[JennyDK]

It sounds more like the issue is the company you kept, rather than the platform itself. I am personally quite happy with it, but I am not here to promote it, of course. I just wondered what was up with you uttering stuff like you did. You are always welcom to say hello to me here or there. The Discord server for ED is also usually a fun place to hang out and talk as well. I am sorry you have had such weird people in your life. We all change during our lives and sadly some just become worse people.

[Somethingsomething]

I honestly never made any bad roleplay experiences. Maybe because I am super picky right away or because I simply do not roleplay with many different people. But if this thread was called "Inappropriate ways that you've been approached online", I could fill a whole page 

[JennyDK]

42 minutes ago, Somethingsomething said:

I honestly never made any bad roleplay experiences. Maybe because I am super picky right away or because I simply do not roleplay with many different people. But if this thread was called "Inappropriate ways that you've been approached online", I could fill a whole page 

Now I am curious about some of these approaches!

[JennyDK]

So a quick recap of context to get this one:

I PMed someone to hear how they were doing and to hear if they still wanted to converse with me and even RP, as we have done so in the past and quite well I think so. This sort of stopped fully (for some reason) as I wanted to stop an RP since I was not enjoying it at some point. So better to be honest and tell my partner about it, right?

Anyway, we talk a bit and I was asked if there were anything I would like to do. To that, I gave multiple ideas - both in form of bulletins for RPs as well as suggest various clubs of mine. EVERYTHING was shot down, with any context as to why and what could be changed to make them work. Basically just a middle finger telling me that it was not for them - like that helps anything.

Furthermore, it doesn't help that you basically insinuate that because it's something I specifically made, that it deters you from doing it. That is just plainly pissing on your content and ideas for no particular reason other than some sort of personal grudge.

 

[Elena Ichinomiya]

Okay, let me share another. Though this one isn't as rage inducing like before. And yes, the fumbling culprit this time is~ myself! Yay!

Back in January 2020, i join another RP site as plan B in case ED didn't work out. The RP site is chat centric rather than PM like ED. Think of it like having RP on discord instead Gmail. Now maybe i get ahead of myself, i take on literally 5 new RP and reply to them all at once. Let's remind ourselves how tedious it can be to tend 3 RP through PM. Now imagine you have 5 live chat RP all at once raining on your arse.

Everything goes well until...

• One dude point out my name is changed
• I play the wrong scene for the wrong RP
• I call a female OC as dude/he
• Act submissive when i'm supposed to be the dom
• Act like snobbish dom when i'm supposed to be sub
• Answering OOC with RP reply instead

Since i'm still considered new member, they didn't consider much of my mistake. Some call it quit, only left me with two. Lesson from this? Don't eat more than you can chew especially when it come into RP live chat just to impress. Some are coming back to have another try, but not without having them give a smug or snicker while nudging me about my past mistake. Way to make first impression does it?

[JennyDK]

LOL - that does indeed show that it's important to know the limitations yourself have, as well as what can be expected from the format. If we talk chat based roleplaying, I try to do 2 at a time at max. I can imagine that some people wish to impress as many as possible and maybe have a hard time saying "no, I am currently full and busy". I certainly have trouble finding my limits for how many scenes and roleplays I should take at once and focus on. Good to hear you were not shunned or anything like that.

Good lesson to learn, for sure.

[JennyDK]

So today we look at another prime example of asshole behaviour.

Some context:
I often get random PMs on F-list and most often it is just a vague question to try and set something up, which is all fine and nice of course. Now, in this instance, I was sent the same exact first PM to ANOTHER profile of mine on the platform. This happens around 15:27 - about the same time where I declined an invitation to RP indirectly by pointing out something the user missed on my profile, despite THEM approaching me first. This happens like 80% of the time, maybe more.

So apparently, pointing out something they would know if they read a profile is now "chastising" and now makes it okay to ignore others you yourself have chosen to strike up a conversation with. The amount of stupid and asshole here is quite high indeed.