Why do we role play?

[Gangsta Moll Deactivated]

What got you into role play?

What do you want out of it, and what do you get?

I started because I was invited to Live Action Role Play (LARP) - a huge festival event where thousands of people dress up in amazing costumes as orcs, warriors, mobsters, lords, ladies, princesses - whatever - and act out intrigues, trades, fights and huge battles, over a weekend.

I didn't think I'd like it but I did: playing the character rather than the game with its rules - immersing myself in being someone else (really a version of me but more free, more daring, less shy).

I made my own costume - most people have amazing realistic ones including chain mail and armour and things - a simple hand sewn tunic. And I didn't have time to make the trousers so ended up as a sort of tiny miniskirted peasant fighter: which was great fun and strangely erotic - and started me down a line of fantasy (yes, sexual..) imaginings which led me through sex chat and story writing till I found Ecchi and loved it.

I still love just gushing sexual arousal in sex role play - pouring my orgasmic feelings onto the keyboard - but I have enjoyed developing beyond that too, into shared storytelling and exploring weird ideas and scenarios - and sometimes just chatting about anything and everything with my new friends here.

What do others here get from role play?

[Pixel]

I like to write, and get words and ideas out of my head somewhere. I don't role play for sexual gratification, but I do enjoy writing adult themes for partners who are into it. I like to write stories and develop relationships between characters and live out fantastic lives that I never will. I like the challenge that comes with improv.

[SpinMaster]

I pretty much get satisfaction and pleasure out of knowing I get to write my fantasies with someone that shares my love and interest in them. Even if some kinks and fantasies are more rare than others, the fact that they're out there excites me and pushes me to find them in hopes of scratching that sexual itch and rubbing out that boner for it at long last. I get pretty horny, and even though watching porn & GIFs handles it, there's nothing like posting a sex-filled scenario with a partner to really push me over the edge, in a forum or a chatroom, public or private.

I first started normally rping with just my best friend, but my erotic adventures started when I learned about computers, word processing, and the internet in high school. I discovered Sailor Moon Chat on beseen.com, and it opened me up to a world of possibilities. I wanted more. Ever since, I tried to get into more and more of my fantasies, and it eventually led to me making my own OC to insert into canon worlds as well as original storylines. I sought out other sites to try out, each different than the last. Unfortunately, I noticed that activity was drying up as time passed, which only drove me harder to find more sites, platforms, and partners.

I still seek out more rps to this day, leading me to here on EcchiDreams, and so far it's very promising. I can only see what the future holds, and as long as I get horny for my kinks and scenarios, I'll still be looking for sexual roleplays. Hope to play with you all sometime!

[SataiRolePlayingGuy]

After so many years, I have hard time remembering the original inspiration.  Though my original RP is still going, after being moved here (slowly, due to a mix of only 2 people writing and various distractions leading to me taking a number of unplanned breaks, that keep lasting considerably longer than I’d like).

What keeps me going is a mix of continuing that story and trying out new stories, I like exploring often weird and sometimes dark ideas, seeing where they go and how the characters develop.  It’s mostly here because sex is often a significant part of it, though I like larger stories built around the sex scenes.

[PurpleLover]

A few years back an artist I follow on twitter made a tweet about being amused by the roleplaying comments on one of their images uploaded to r34; don't really know why but it got me hooked, I wanted to take part too.  So I made an account and here we are today.

Why I keep doing it.... quite frankly I'm probably never going to meet someone irl that both they and myself want to have any kind of sexual relationship.  Not to go into too many details as I'm sure most here aren't interested in a sob story.  But tldr I'm autistic af, horribly depressed, and probably other mental issues.  I've never been able to socialize well growing up, and no one could or would help me be able to so I'm just horribly socially stunted as a person.  And you kinda need social skills to develop any kind of interpersonal relationship let alone end up in bed together.

So I keep roleplaying, or trying to despite my brain's best attempts to be miserable, to fill that sexual void in my heart.  Even then I don't really self insert into anything I roleplay, for whatever reason just feels weird.  And I guess I do like to write, but if it was just that I'd just write cringe filled lewd fan fics which I do dabble in anyway lmao

Sorry if that kills anyone's vibe reading it.

[YelloweyeOfHim]

I have an acquaintance who told me a few years ago about iFunny and that it had a rp “community” and I was curious enough to check it out. A app with memes and roleplaying? Sure why not. The only thing is that 95% of the roleplays where all ERPS with all sort of kinks and shit that at the time blew my mind as I never even knew people did that on the internet. I was still in High School so this was a time where I really wanted to explore all the weird shit the internet had to offer so I made a account and started doing things and fell in love with it. Making lewd story’s and plots with another person was just really fun and satisfying. Admittedly becoming a ERPer has probably made me get into kinks that before hand I would have never thought I’d ever like but dark “actions” corrupt the mind I guess lol. But on the other hand it did help improve my writing though I still suck. But the main reason I think I keep doing it though, besides the perverted enjoyment of just reading what’s happening, is that I can, in my own mind, creat “plots” that I’d love to read or watch if they where a Hentai or Doujinshi’s. Cuz I used to be, well still kinda am, super into those but after a while I have found that most are kinda bland or just too similar. Which is also why I mostly like doing futa rps. Cuz most futa Hentai/Doujinshis suck in my opinion on top of that fact there’s just not a lot of them. But yeah for the most part I just get a kick of writing what is essentially glorified porn with another person.

[Jshady]

I Role play because I loved to play pretend and I still to in my mind to this day. I also use it as a way to escape reality. It's a coping mechanism I use as well. I hope people find me eventually cuz I haven't been able to find people and it's honestly frustrating how there's a whole sea of people who role play but I can't find one that wants to for months.

[Gangsta Moll Deactivated]

15 hours ago, PurpleLover said:

Sorry if that kills anyone's vibe reading it.

Quite the opposite: thank you for sharing so openly, and so clearly. We are all so diverse, so different from each other, it is endlessly fascinating to read each other's thoughts about it.

[Gangsta Moll Deactivated]

1 hour ago, Jshady said:

I Role play because I loved to play pretend and I still do in my mind to this day.

I rediscovered pretending as an adult, and it has been liberating: well, it has helped me to embark on a path that I have I hope leads to liberation.

[Pixel]

15 hours ago, PurpleLover said:

Sorry if that kills anyone's vibe reading it.

Nonsense.

No one is without their issues, whether it be a mental block/disorder/illness or otherwise. I feel like this site, sometimes, is a safe haven for such individuals to come together and unwind, decompress. The amount of statuses that I see here that say depression or hard life turns has stopped whoever may be posting from sending responses, etc, is disheartening and I wish I could help them, but there's only so much you can do for someone sometimes other than assure them they're not alone and that we feel for them.

Whether it fills a void for loneliness or anything that is otherwise unfulfilled in our lives, honesty doesn't kill a vibe. Your reasons are your reasons. Thank you for sharing.

[SataiRolePlayingGuy]

Yeah, I did not mention it here, because it is at best a small portion of why I do this, but you dig around deep enough on the site you can find me explaining all my personal issues.  My experience is most people either don’t care about it (in a good way) or are supportive of that sort of thing here.

[Pixel]

6 minutes ago, SataiRolePlayingGuy said:

Yeah, I did not mention it here, because it is at best a small portion of why I do this, but you dig around deep enough on the site you can find me explaining all my personal issues.  My experience is most people either don’t care about it (in a good way) or are supportive of that sort of thing here.

For sure. I started a small blog in personal stories myself a few months ago, here and in other places. I also started therapy. It's been quite a journey through it, looking back and seeing how different I thought of things with a stagnant perspective, as opposed to now. There's a lot I'm ashamed of, but I'm learning from it every day. Highly recommend if you have such a resource as a professional available.

[Gangsta Moll Deactivated]

I think that is a very deep insight. Certainly for me this has aspects of a community not just in the sense of happening to be in the same space but of sharing common interests - and issues and problems and insights. I am sue in what I write can be read a little of my issues, but also I am glad to have found here some friends with whom I can share, and ask for advice, and that feels very special.

[Lookin4fun]

I normally don't post on the forums, I'm too introverted to just post shit out there, but this question was just too good. Though most of y'all had interesting reasons and I'll probably echo some of what was said, I still wanted to toss my two cents in...

1. I desperately need the creative outlet of writing and role playing. Sometimes I get manic and my thoughts race, so I need to slow shit down. Writing helps to get things formulated intelligently and helps me organize my thoughts. Like many of you, I found out about ERP online, thought it sounded interesting, and gave it a shot. It turned out to be something more enjoyable than the bonkers ass weird books I'm writing and so I never looked back.

2. Role playing is a safe place to try things that I normally wouldn't do in real life. Can I play a meek dude tied up, pinned down, and be utterly used by a dommy mommy? Fuck yeah. Can I do that shit in real life? Uh, no, because my trust issues are so deep I don't know if I could trust ANYBODY to do that shit let alone tie me up, haha. So role playing is the safe way to experience that fantasy, because I don't want to end up like George Costanza after a bad date:

Spoiler

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zQZCYKiWgAI

Anyway, fantastic topic, @Gangsta Moll!

[PurpleLover]

You're all so nice

21 minutes ago, Lookin4fun said:

Uh, no, because my trust issues are so deep I don't know if I could trust ANYBODY to do that shit let alone tie me up, haha

Also this, I have huge hang ups about trusting anyone.  After getting stabbed in the back to varying levels of severity by ""friends"" constantly both irl or online.

[Lookin4fun]

It takes a lot of time to sift through the vast quantity of people who are trash, but you will find the gems. And they make everything worth it when you find them.

[Pixel]

During my hard time, I found gems, it just sort of happened that way. Tema, Neptune, Foxy, Dozle, Yang, Yori, Jae, Star, Bambi and Azalyn (despite her issues that she is trying to work on), basically the regular ED discord crew were all very supportive of me during one of the darkest periods of my life in the midst of ridiculous drama and most of us have had great times ever since. No one is as supportive as my beloved @Harmony Frost, though . Yes, dear, this is me simping for you. These are all people who have shown me different perspectives, different mindsets and thought processes and helped me grow in ways I didn't know I needed whether they're aware of it or not and I do not believe any of them will ever do anything to hurt me or anyone else intentionally.

There are good people here, there are fake people here, just as there are anywhere else. It's easy to tell who is who with one conversation, generally. 

[Harmony Frost]

As someone who role plays on multiple platforms I must say that I’m just addicted to the feeling of creating something new. And occasionally I get lucky and find new, wonderful friends. A lot of times it allows me to explore fantasies and ideas that would normally be beyond my reach or maybe not as fun if I were to write about it alone. Plus it’s a great way to de-stress and forget about real world stuff. Sometimes there’s sexual gratification as well but honestly I’m much more addicted to the ooey gooey romantic feelings I get when I write with a great partner. I’ve had lots of good partners like Myst, Aurelius, Balthier, Lisa, Kona, TAG and Reven. So many more. And then there’s special people like @Pixel who hold your hand during the darkest of times and manages to make you smile even when your world is on fire and upside down. Anyways, I thought I’d add my two cents. 

[Elena Ichinomiya]

What got me into RP? Curiosity.

What do i want out from it? Nothing, its just a side activity on the internet.

What do i get from RP? A platform to write something online i guess? I never RP in real life in case you wondering.

[Dirtydan]

I roleplay here for a lot of reasons any number of which I'm sure has already been mentioned. 

I do it for the thrill, the excitement of doing things I could never do in real life the. The joy of meeting and creating something with the people around me. I find it immensely gratifying to explore a world I know will never exist, to share an experience no else will ever be able to. Creating something is an experience that I don't think I'll be able to get enough of. Outside of this I also play a lot of TTRPG's mostly as DM. 

I also really enjoy the aspect of communal story telling. Not having the control to write a whole story on my own. Where things don't alway go the way plan or intend the twists and turns, evolving into a narrative I'd struggle with on my own. Working with someone on a project, we can both call uniquely our own. I cannot express how much I enjoy the sense of community and openess I get from this group all of the people I interact with are kind, understanding, and patient. Even when their is a misunderstanding. 

In the end I suppose I roleplay to satisfy my desires whether that be, my creativity, my frustrations, or even my darker urges have place here where they can be safely expressed with others who seek something similar. It's an outlet for me, satisfy the things crave when I can't get it anywhere else. 

[Mommylover51]

On 09/01/2023 at 09:25, Jshady said:

I Role play because I loved to play pretend and I still to in my mind to this day. I also use it as a way to escape reality. It's a coping mechanism I use as well. I hope people find me eventually cuz I haven't been able to find people and it's honestly frustrating how there's a whole sea of people who role play but I can't find one that wants to for months.

I couldn't have worded it any better that's how I feel! I also enjoy doing and say that and playing things that just can't happen in the real world 

[Gangsta Moll Deactivated]

I think I do the same: do things in role play that can never really happen. But there is a little bit of me that is almost practicing - not the actual acts but the confidence that I sometimes pretend - for when I am ready to go back fully into the sexual real world.

[Kek]

To have the closest thing I can experience to my specific fantasy. Though even with many roleplays only one has ever agreed to roleplay my fantasy and that was too short. So I am still at the starting point situation.