sex or masturbation

[SheenaFujibayashi]

So I recently talked with a guy who prefered to masturbate over sex. It was very new to me, but he told me he likes to focus on himself and relax. I can partly understand, but I also feel sorry for the guy. If you are confident with yourself you can relax when you have sex too.

What do you guys think? Do any of you prefer to do it yourself? 

[thedude]

Hmmm... Well, there are a lot of different ways of doing it yourself so you can get pretty creative! :D However, seeing as how I have no first hand experience, my opinion is only partially valid XD

[SMFoxy]

6 hours ago, thedude said:

"...seeing as how I have no first hand experience..."

I know it's childish, but: "lol, masturbation joke."

On a semi-serious note, I suppose with masturbation, you only have to worry about disappointing yourself. xD

[thedude]

To clarify, I meant experience with sex other than masturbation. Either way, we'll player sir! XD

[brunoname]

personally it depends on what you have done sexually  i use to like to go solo because hated bothering my girl friend but then i started have sex that i was willing to ask for  

[Arlier]

It depends. I prefer sex myself but masturbation takes the pressure off disappointing the other person. There's also sex positions that offer both sex and masturbation

[Warlock]

Let it be known that both have their ups and downs (lol) I would have to go with sex over masturbation, simply because (as Sheena said) I don't worry to much and know that my partner will enjoy herself.

I also understand the masturbation is enjoyable and certainly isn't something to shy away from, but if I had to choose, I'd rather make two people happy XD

[Slave Of Pleasure]

Both are nice.

[Aerith Gainsborough Deactivated]

Masturbation is pretty nice and enjoyable. With sex though, there's just a certain satisfaction you get from it, depending on how good it is. Just my opinion

 

[Thesewords]

From my point of view, masturbation is a last resort. Unless you have a toy, I think for ladies it's a bit more complicated then just something to do then relax...i prefer a partner to me, myself, and i

[lVergill]

I agree with Thesewords! Having a partner is way better, especially if you really really love that person, then it become enjoyable and excited for the both of them.

Also, the position, dirty talk, moaning, and having someone else with you is far better than masturbation. 

[Noah Takumi Banned]

I would if I weren't taken, mostly because of STD's... But other then that I like both, sex is when you want to do more then just cum though. Like kissing and touching, where taking care of it yourself I would think of just practicing for sex. Getting your stamina up and stuff, but mostly it's just for cumming without having to put in work. Some girls like to be turned on before sex, so that their wet before hand so it doesn't hurt. Getting them there can take longer then you want to wait sometimes... Same for girls vs guys... either way masturbating isn't bad, but sex is always better to me. 

[Kalvoras Vertal Banned]

On 11/8/2016 at 11:31, Arlier said:

It depends. I prefer sex myself but masturbation takes the pressure off disappointing the other person. There's also sex positions that offer both sex and masturbation

#Rimjob

[PixelBoi]

I suppose it depends for me. I love masturbating because I know what I like. It's healthy (as long as it doesn't become and addiction) and it's a way to feel good and relieve stress. Sex on the other hand is fun and exciting. You and your partner can try things you never knew you'd like or enjoy. It can also be a way to truly express your love for someone. Even if you're bad at it or don't last long if you and your partner really care about each other just something as simple as foreplay can make either person cum. It can also do everything I listed for masturbation, and vice versa. It's really a mixed bag for people. but I think I'm tied 50/50. I love both of them for their own reasons. 

[Kalvoras Vertal Banned]

"I must be masturbating unhealthily then XD Is five times a night too much, and can it be considered an addiction? XD"

[PixelBoi]

@ShuyaHideaki I wouldn't say so. Otherwise I might be an addict. D: Really though, I think it'd an addiction if you needed to do it and couldn't wait until you got home or something. It might be a bit unhealthy, or who knows. Could be making you healthier.

[Kalvoras Vertal Banned]

"I did it once in class XD But that was three years ago XD Thank god for back row tables"

[PixelBoi]

I might be guilty of that, but it was years ago in high school. I've masturbated in public places before, but it was more for the thrill and experimentation. Not really my thing. I'd probably have sex in public if I had a partner who wanted to, but I'd really have to be in love with them.

[Kalvoras Vertal Banned]

"I've had sex in a library, and I can say that a vagina/ass/mouth is way better than my own hand XD"

[PixelBoi]

True, nothing compares to that, but only you know yourself in and out and exactly what you need to do to get off as efficiently as possible. I'd rather use a toy than my hand, but sometimes I'd rather use my hand. Nothing wrong with it, it works just fine. It's a feeling of self pleasure.

[Kalvoras Vertal Banned]

"Toys are fun XD"

[Rachel Chan]

So masturbate is relaxing for boys? O__O

It aint like that for us girls. At least thats what i feel. X//D

[NickWantsToRP]

I can't comment on sex as I've never had it, but DAMN do I love masturbating.

I'd be terrified by the thought of dissapointing my partner. While wanking, you can focus on self satisfaction without having to worry about anyone else.

[Eilauver]

Both can be equally gratifying, I don't prefer one without the other.

[Enchanted_Dream]

I think it depends on the person but I rather have sex with the person I love than masturbating.

That way I can give them my all and I can feel close to them, kiss them, please them and focus on them. Plus I always feel closer when I'm with a person. :)